"A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it."

- ― Oscar Wilde (via psych-quotes)

(via psych-quotes)

Cognitive Distortions that Add to Anxiety, Worry and Stress

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. All-or-nothing thinking: Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)

2. Overgeneralization: Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true…

Why Rejection Is Good

psych-quotes:

There’s no doubt that rejection is painful. Whether it’s from someone you like and are asking out, or a job you really wanted, rejection is a tough pill to swallow. Unfortunately it’s a necessary part of life, but the good news is that rejection can actually be a good thing. Even though it won’t feel like it at the time, there is lots of good that can come from rejection. Here are just some of the ways that rejection can be a good thing:

  • It builds character. Someone who’s had everything handed to them on a silver platter just isn’t as interesting as someone who’s had to work hard for where they are in life. The most inspirational stories are those of people who have been down and out and rejected time and time again before finally finding success. So while rejection stings at first, try to think of it as one more interesting thing about you, or one more way that you’re growing as a person.
  • It brings you closer to what’s right. Getting rejected from something like a job you really want is a blessing in disguise. That job probably wasn’t right for you, and if you took it you wouldn’t be available for the job that’s really right for you. Rejection brings us one step closer to what we are meant to do or to what’s right for us. If someone rejects you when you ask them out, just think that they weren’t the right person for you and now you’re a step closer to finding someone who is.

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"I wish I could have lived my life without making any wrong turns. But that’s impossible. A path like that doesn’t exist. We fail. We trip. We get lost. We make mistakes."

- Natsuki Takaya (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

sh4ne:

fencehopping:

Melting aluminum with an electromagnet.

splat

"To acquire knowledge, one must study;
but to acquire wisdom, one must observe."

- ― Marilyn Vos Savant (via psych-quotes)

coca-cola-anne:

You may not be able to see your own beauty or love yourself but one day, someone will. You have only lived such a small part of yourself, you will never know what the future brings. So, keep going. Hold on. You are never alone. ♥

(via solemn-vow)

It’s all in the mind (or defending ourselves against reality)

onlinecounsellingcollege:

Defense mechanisms are unconscious psychological strategies that help us to cope with reality whilst also preserving our self esteem. Normal, healthy people use them regularly. Examples could include humour, thought suppression or sublimation (transforming negative…

psych2go:

Once a group of 500 people were attending a seminar. Suddenly the speaker stopped and decided to do a group activity. He started giving each person a balloon. Each person was then asked to write their name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.The people were then let into that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written on it within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon.Then, the speaker asked each person to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it. Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.The speaker then began, “This is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness; you will get your own happiness. And this is the purpose of human life…the pursuit of happiness.”